ashes to ashes
this is not self help
it's a self resurrection
are you ready to
bury the self sacrificing
nice girl
enter your villain era
& let your dark femme lead
to feel hot as hell
with high af standards
INTRODUCING
RIP people pleaser
a LIVE workshop
of the ceremonial death of the version of you that betrays herself to be loved
+ the reclamation & rebirth of the REAL you.
We are all gathered here today
to say goodbye to…the nice girl people pleaser. 🪦
May she rest in peace
(and passivity)
She died doing what she loved:saying “oh no worries!! totally fine :)”
when a man cancelled a date 12 mins before…(like mascara had already been applied)and then still texting him later to
“see how he was doing.” 🫠
She spent her days replying
“of course!!” to unpaid overtime emails, offering to plan, organize and host even though her brain body and wallet are feeling tapped TF out and being everyone’s unpaid therapist while quietly drowning in her own bathtub of resentment
Her passing will be commemoratedby just a single moment of silence 🤫
so as not to inconvenience anyone and take up too much time !!!
She will not be missed.
Why I am your
GO TO GUIDE
I was a closet people pleaser...
I was the "mature for her age" parentified eldest daughter that became the protector & peace maker in my childhood home. Couple that w some abandonment wounds and high functioning high performance drive and I became a CLOSET people pleaser.
- I NEVER wanted to be seen as weak or as a victim so I became the martyr instead (spoiler alert the martyr is also a victim)
- I was the strong one and became chained to my identity of "I can do it all" self sacrifice.
- I did so much therapy and personal development "work" I became an expert at intellectualizing but still self abandoned under the guise of maturity and emotional intelligence.
I had to break up with my identity as the saviour, stop being addicted to being seen as "perfect" and end my tendency to shrink myself to make others feel more comfortable. It was HARD f*cking work - and it begins, with getting sick of your own sh*t and then being brave enough to move through the death & rebirth portal of your former self.
On the other side of what feels like your "villain era" (which is mostly just setting boundaries lol) are actual authentic, reciprocal relationships, experiences that meet your standards, and new layers to your actual authentic self.
In this workshop I will show you how to move out of your wounded feminine into your POWER to become the main character (whos sometimes a cunt) of your own life.
I'm finally able to just stand firm knowing my value
____ J
he circled back like you said I didn't even reply and for once didn't feel anxious or guilty
____ A
I channeled my inner Aymie and just asked for what I want it felt scary and that after I felt SO RELIEVED
____ S
the nice girl funeral
lay her to rest
SEE YOU THERE SEXY
the spookiest thing is staying the same